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We are taking the little one for a ride on her new sled. It is bright orange, with a fuzzy black and white seat cover to keep her extra warm. Her tiny hands in tiny gloves hold the sides as tight as she can. I pull her down a path, shouting "woohooo" and then she replies "woohoo". N's turn is next, pulling her more schoolgirl than mother for a few minutes. There are other parents with children on sleds passing us. Their eyes straight forward, faces completely blank they slip by in silence. I flash a smile to them, and they do not even look at me. I am not there, just another tree leaning towards the stream that runs below.

There are ducks still, flapping around the brackish water and we throw pieces of stale bread to them. I start to think, not about the complete absence of smiles in this culture. I stopped asking about that long ago, told over and again that smiles are reserved for home, behind closed doors. But I wonder, for the children -  these wiggling bu…

the year of the rabbit (is never over)

The rabbit weighs at least five pounds including the single dangling foot left intact to prove it is fresh. The black nails, the grey fur and the smell of straw drift towards me. It is the first part I cut off, fluffy and soft in my hands. I stare at the carcass for some time, wash my hands again, sharpen the small knife and the big one. The year of the rabbit has come to an end, and all of Russia celebrates this by eating one. They say it is both significant and lucky. 

I had a hard time finding one at rinok until I went to my halal booth, the same one where I bought our Thanksgiving turkey. They apologize for the price, telling me I should come back after New Year's and the cost will be half. I shrug my shoulders, try to say "what to do?" as I tuck the giant pink plastic bag under my arm and make my way through the noisy, chaotic, lurching crowd.

I tiptoe into the living room. 
E is fast asleep, one hand perched awkwardly across her cheek. 
I do not want her to see any of this.

Cutting the animal in half just above the hind legs, I pull sinew and spine apart. Breaking the legs down, I debone them, leaving the tough parts at the bottom to scrape off. The full pieces of meat are trimmed of silver flesh and fat, then go into the first bowl. The smaller bits will be salted, strewn with fresh thyme and a splash of olive oil, maybe a spoonful of good sherry. They will braise for hours under tin foil in an oven barely on until they become a fragrant mush called rillette that will be spread on toast. 

There are organs tucked inside, a giant liver, kidneys, heart. I pull them out, wiping the black coagulated dots of blood from the cutting board. A hot ripple runs up my back. I wipe my nose with the back of my hand. I need to break this down, or I will feel it staring back at me. When I was a boy on the farm, I had easily seen a dozen pigs killed and butchered by the time I was E's age. It was fascinating, and then quickly became something I could not stand. I hid far in the woods until I heard the single gunshot, waiting for hours to come back down the hill, hoping the carcass had become shoulders and ribs and roasts. I hack off the front legs and ribcage, and the saddle remains. Running the knife along each side of the spine I break out two slender muscles. The midsection is flipped over and the loins come out. There is plenty of silver flesh to slice away. It sticks to my fingers when I try to toss it into the garbage. This is man's work, I used to tell myself as a boy when a deer would be hoisted onto the dining room table over garbage bags and newspapers, to be hacked into pieces that were stored in the freezer except the heart which my father ate the same day he killed one, sliced thin and fried with onions then stacked on a Kaiser roll.

When E was a baby a pair of rabbits hid sometimes in our front yard. There was a grown one and a little one. It was as easy to imagine it was a mother and child as it was to imagine it was a father and child. One rainy day in Fall, I stood for more than an hour at the front window watching them shiver under a canvas folding chair I had forgotten to bring inside. The rain dripped down around them, and they shook next to each other, feet tucked under their soft chests. E was standing then with my help, her fingers in my hands, balancing on top of a shoe cabinet to see them. I imagined they were scared, that maybe a dog had chased them in the park next to our apartment. I Imagined them making quiet noises to each other, giving comfort and reassurance, making plans for someplace safe to hide. There was something hopeless about them, as if I was preparing myself to be unsurprised to find them dead the next morning. At the same time, I imagined they would be fine, hiding in the bushes or in some backyard, dry and safe, growing fat and old.

E had already witnessed more fear and anger, more waste and pain than many people do in a lifetime. Somehow, the rabbit parent and child did survive that Fall and Winter, and were still there when we left that place.

The pile of bones and thick slivers of fat grows larger than what is left. The front legs are easier, as I know they are all going to be small pieces for the rillette. No need to go slow now. The bones and fat go into a pot of water with three fingers of salt and some bay leaves. The trimmed meat will brine in lemon juice and white wine, some mustard, fresh thyme and oregano, salt and pepper. The heart, kidneys and liver will become pate tomorrow but now I just wrap them quickly in a plastic bag and hide them in the refrigerator.

I thought it would get easier as I went, but no.
It is sober work that I do in silence.

Tomorrow will be the party, the clean table, the dishes salty and sweet, the crunch, the savory, the tender. There will be quiet toasts and smiles, laughter, hugs, kisses, jokes. There will be music and a door to the hallway opened for the new year to enter.

I tell myself the hard part is behind me, that I can wash my hands one last time but I know that this is just wishful thinking. Things are going to be messy for a long time.

A revision note: I stand corrected as to why everyone in Russia is eating a rabbit tonight. The year that is ending is actually the year of the dragon. The previous year was the year of the rabbit. People in Russia eat rabbits tonight because the incoming year is the year of the snake - and snakes eat rabbits. 


That's the finest I've seen in a while Marco, the writing that is. Genuinely an astounding piece.
liv said…
This is why you should be a recognized author - your writing is universal. There is always something in your stories that the reader can identify with, see the knife in their hand - feel the chill at the window. We've all watched a helpless scene like that and we've all done the dirty deed because it must be done - while protecting sleeping innocents. That was transporting.

The pictures were fantastic and I can imagine, a bit, the taste of the final dishes, crunchy, salty, tender. Wonderful. Now I'd just like to be in one of the warm corners lifting my glass with everyone and welcoming the new year through the opened door.

PS: I'm sending you a new cutting board...
OMG! Marco. Breathtaking and 'bloody' astonishing.How I wish you would write about butchering a dragon. Happy, happy new Year to the three of you!

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