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The yarmarka (farmer's market) is about to close. Some of the people are already packing up, offering their last bruised tomatoes at half-price to anyone walking past them.  I am wandering, staring at bunches of herbs, at the same old options - cabbage, pepper, potato, garlic, apple, cucumber. But then I see a pile of peas. The season must have come early this year. I buy a kilo, and some mint. I know what is for dinner. We have not had it in eleven months.

At home, I rip the bag open, showing them to V. She stands by the kitchen table, eyes wide. I crack one open, showing her the little rounds inside. She plucks one out, her pinky pointing to the ceiling.
"Try it." I tell her.
She does, but she does not like it.

I pull out a bowl for them. She jumps up and down a few times. V always wants to help in the kitchen. I pull her to my lap, and we begin pulling them out from the shells. She learns quickly, tossing them with a flourish into the bowl, a few cascading to the flo…

the sky in the skillet

She runs to the kitchen, her bangs suddenly long enough for her to misjudge the door but somehow she slides in behind the table just fine. We have no time as her mother will be downstairs soon, chainsmoking and calling every minute for her to get dressed. But right now, a birthday party is underway. A coffee cake made from a plastic brick of coffee beans is being decorated with plastilene candles. The guests are propped up when they begin to sag sideways. The room smells of the pork roast I have in the oven, smoked paprika and cumin, coriander and a little shake of Old Bay's because I miss home more than usual today. 

She directs me, guides me through the miniature party. She helps the little yellow man make a wish. Her wish. The same wish every time. 

And then she is gone.

The long minute when I go back upstairs is the most difficult. Going back down the courtyard with the sound of my flipflops echoing back at me, avoiding the gazes of the old ladies on their folding chairs, paper fans in their hands. Turning the key in the lock, hearing nothing but the curtains, the low wind flipping the windows around - this is the saddest sound in the world.

Sometimes it feels like all I ever say is goodbye.

I make rice, tortillas from scratch, warm up the beans. The kitchen smells heady, fatty, salty. I sip cold white wine from a tiny glass.

N turns the lock in the door. A sound to break the empty space, the familiar jangle of her keys as she slips into her house slippers, shopping bags swaying from her wrists with fresh avocados and limes I forgot to buy.

I start the guacamole as she sits at the curve of the table, picking at the corners of the tortillas as I grab them from the pan one by one and hide them under a towel. Rolling the next one out in the flour scattered across the table she smells the meat.

"Oi." She says. "Pork again?"

I nod once.

She rolls her eyes.

We will eat it all, barely leaving two tortillas for breakfast and some chilaquiles.

Some people say I am obsessed with food, with cooking, with noodles and spices, condiments and exhausting procedures. N knows better. She knows it keeps me sane. She knows that nothing says I love you like a frittata, or the warm, round flourless chocolate cakes I make at midnight. She knows that if I ever stop cooking, I will stop living. 

Late that night, I cannot sleep. N's face is turned into her pillow, the Aphrodite curve of her stomach glowing in the half-light as I watch her for a moment. I wander into the kitchen, get a glass of water. Walking through the living room, stepping gingerly over E's latest lego masterpiece I stand for some time. 

Yes, I say to myself. Yes.

I put the empty glass on the kitchen table and notice the sky reflected in my giant saute pan. Far too big for the cabinets, it hangs like a trophy on the wall, as if I earned it at one point. 


liv said…
Yes, I know this ache.
Know the weight of it in my chest.

What you are leaving her with this blog - the testament of your Love - will make her more than she ever could have been without it. Someday she will reel back with the power of what you leave here for her: the evidence of this kind of Love.

Such a privilege for me to be able to witness it. It's humbling, you know?

And I live for when you cook! You, dear man, know how to Love. Cook, cook, cook! Oh, that tortilla's could fly across the oceans. I would give a loved possession for one. The spices, the oil in the pan, the aromas fill this room too when you write them.

Rolling her eyes at "pork again" made me laugh. What a beautiful problem for a lucky woman. Nothing fills the void like the smell of pork, except eating it.

Thank you Marco for feeding me too.
and thank you also for changing the background from black to white. My eyes were crossing reading the years of your writing against the black. This white helps.
Omgrrrl said…
Cooking is better than praying. It is more than believing and beyond creating.

Cooking is nirvana. It takes our focus from what has happened to what is happening now.

It takes a mindset, a plan, and a TON of love.

In spite of your circumstance, NO ONE can take that away from you.

Gran bissous.
Robin said…
I love the way you write.

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